When the Holidays Hurt: A Therapist’s Journey Through Religious Trauma and Seasonal Expectations

The holidays can feel like a storm for therapists who have experienced religious trauma. Even as we support clients through family pressures, church conflicts, and grief, our own bodies remember the fear, guilt, and performance-based expectations of the past. A hymn, a ritual, or an invitation can trigger memories we thought we’d outgrown. Healing doesn’t erase these reactions—it teaches us to honor them. This season, therapists are allowed to rest, to set boundaries, and to redefine what the holidays mean. Choosing your own peace is an act of courage and compassion.